Toxic friendship is very common and we all know someone or the other who has been in one. But what no one ever speaks about or acknowledges is when we’re friends with toxic people. We normally don’t question our friends’ characters and take them for who they are.
Here are 20 signs of a toxic friendship that should make you feel that it’s time to let them go now:
Signs That You Are In A Toxic Friendship
Your friend doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions.
If you’ve watched Tamasha, you would know how Ved very conveniently began and stopped talking with Tara without giving any valid reason. It was because he never accepted responsibility for his actions. That’s the basic sign of a toxic friendship.
Your friend lives off the energy he sucks out of you.
If you have watched 500 Hundred Days of Summer, you would be able to relate to Tom’s exhaustion after every time Summer pulled off a tantrum. Summer legit lives off on the energy she sucks out of Tom, and Tom helplessly just tries hard day and night to impress her in every way he can.
Your friend exhibits no true emotions.
No pain is greater than the other but if you think your problems are redundant because your friend compares them to theirs all the time, it’s because they lack understanding. Friends are deemed to empathize with you when you need it and showing you that it’s not worth being upset over because they’ve had it graver makes you feel shit about sharing it in the first place.
They are always charming/flirty/charismatic/confident.
There’s a fine line between being charming and being toxic but there comes a point in everyone’s life where you would need to make your own impression. Particularly when it comes to picking a friend, a friend can tell you but not charm you into getting things done.
They are mercurial and unpredictable.
If your friends rely on you, it’s definitely cool because that’s what friends are for. What’s not good is when you’re never at the getting end of it. No friend should require you to be at their beck and call but inappropriately be unavailable when you’re in want them.
Your friend doesn’t communicate easily.
If he wants to tell you something, he will shape the argument in such a way that it either confuses you or you just end up agreeing with what he says.
Your friend will throw tantrums.
They say you should constantly be there for your friends when they need you. But it’s only true if they’re there for you in return. You shouldn’t have to babysit your friends ALL THE TIME because they’re going through a hard time. But when they never repay the favor, it’s time to provide this friendship some thought. Your problems are equally important and if you cannot speak about them with someone who talks about their problems, it’s not a fun experience.
You would find it tough to introduce them to other people.
Introducing your friends to other people is a part of our lives. But if we have to consider twice before doing so, there’s something that’s not right about that. Getting your leg pulled in good humor and getting humiliated right where it hurts all the time are two very separate things. Getting belittled by your friends, particularly in front of other people can hamper your self-esteem and there’s nothing good about that.
Your friend has a past he doesn’t talk about.
In order to know a person completely, it is really important that you know their past. If your friend is not opening up about their past completely, they will always be hiding something from you.
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Your friend is jealous of your achievement.
Friendships should not proceed with jealousy but a toxic friendship does. And that often prevents you from sharing any big news with your friend because you’d somewhat not be at the receiving end of jealousy from them.
Your friend will always end up being the victim of the situation.
Being honest with your friends is important, so when you feel that their behavior is irking you, you should tell them that honestly. But imagine telling your friend that their behavior irritates you, and instead of changing it, he starts crying and starts acting as if you hurt them to a different level altogether. That’s your friend playing the victim card and it will always make you the one at the apologizing end and your friend will always get away with whatever they want.
Your friend has a lack of emotional self-control.
Their behavior is extreme. If they are happy with you, they will publicly shower love upon you but if they are upset with you, they will defame you even in front of your friends.
Your friend makes superficial judgments.
A toxic friendship means a lot of criticism thrown your way. Your acts/opinions are deemed redundant and it often hampers your self-confidence. You might think like you’re inadequate at everything you do. Friendships should give support, and not a criticism at every point in your life.
Your friend often turns out to be cruel.
Bullying should never be taken anywhere and if you’re bullied in a friendship, it’s a complete no-no. This kind of friendship often lands you in problems with scenarios you would have rather avoided.
Your friend is perfect. End of discussion.
They cannot take criticism. If you criticize them, first of all, how can you! And even if you do, you’re the one having a negative mentality because they were sent on this planet straight from heaven.
Your friend loves their image more than anything.
Praan jaaye par image na jaaye! Irrespective of it being on social media or even in front of your other friends, they want their image to be perfect.
Your friend treats you like a pawn.
Judging anyone is incorrect, let alone a friend. Judgments can work with your mind and especially when it’s done by someone you call a friend, it’s not good. Getting judged for every decision you do by your friends makes you feel like you’re not good enough to control your own life.
You can’t share your secrets with them.
Friends share secrets all the time. But if your secrets enhance the world’s knowledge because your friend couldn’t keep it to themselves, it’s apparently not a good idea to remain friends with that person. A friend should be reliable and not go around scattering your secrets to everyone.
Your friend has an excuse for everything he does.
They can go ahead and bitch about you to people but they will still have a reason for that. They can ignore you for years while getting things done from you, but they will still have an excuse for that.
Your friend never pitches in and you end up doing all the monetary contribution.
Friends pay for each other all the time. It’s completely fine to help a brother out once in a while but what’s totally uncool is when you end up being in charge of paying all the bills all the time.
To be frank it is better to be alone than to have a toxic friendship. If any of these signs bring a special friend to mind, it’s time for you to either face them or get rid of them. Check out these television friendships that gave us major friendship goals.